יום קשה

יום קשה לכולם בארץ. לא יודעים מה להגיד. מרגיז. קשה. רגשות קשים.

A motivation for empathy

Men can be empathic and understanding if they love the woman and want her. Even though Men are not equipped biologically and culturally for being very empathic – their love and attraction to their woman can help them to acquire those qualities.

" I need you", sang the "America" band, "like the 
flower  needs  the rain, you know, I need you..."

I need you, Honey,  too.

We all need our husbands to listen to us.

That is the one of the biggest problems the women have those days.

The women are supposed to be Men's friends those days. Not only the providers of food and money and house-cleaning, but also to be their man's friend and partner. And the women want and expect the men to be their best friend, too.

But are men equipped today to be best woman's friend?

A lot of man are not equipped to be the women's best friends.

Chodorov, a psychologist and a feminist, wrote about it. The author of "The masculine brain" wrote about it.

Men are equipped quite well for fighting.

They are also equipped for listening and being empathic, but not that good, sometimes, as women are equipped for empathic listenin.

But.

It's also a motivational issue.

If you love your wife and you want her, you will be motivated to be empathic.

If you do not love her that much – you will find little empathy in yourself.

So - Motivation.

It is about motivation, after all.

Not only biology. Genes. Education.

It is just about love and desire the other person – that is helping you to become motivated to be empathic and understanding.

Is it sad?

I am not sure it is.

Better knowing the facts than not knowing them, isn't it?

I will goodbye you,

Hoping men and women will get as good as possible for everybody's sake

Yours,

Rachel Bar-Yossef-Dadon

A clinical psychologist

And the author of  "93 tools for happiness"

All you need is love

The beatles sang this song, "All you need is love.

We, actually, sing this song every day of our lives: "all we need is love".

We work because we need to survive, but also because we need love. 

We need our childrens' love. Our husbands' love. Our wives' love.

We even need our pets' love. Our plants in the flowerpots' love.

And don't forget, please, our patients' and pupils' and employees' love, too. And of course, our colleagues' love... How could I forget that love?

So much love we need.

And it's o.k. to need all that love. It's normal and healthy to need love. We can survive all that need for love. We can.

We just have to give ourselves some rest, sometimes.

That's all.

Yes, we need love to survive. But we also need some rest and fun and also food - in order to relax, and keep on searching fot giving and recieving love.

Thaks for reading me,

Yours, 

Rachel
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